Porn, Masturbation, and Faking Orgasm

Do you know that most love partners do strange things when they are alone? Have you ever wondered if your love partner has some sex secrets he or she keeps from you? Of course, in every relationship/marriage, there is always a sex secret from both partners. But, do not be worried, this interesting article will enlighten you on 3 Sex Secrets we keep from our partners, reasons for the secrets, and as well expose you to some educating implication of the sex secrets we keep from our love partners.

Human sexuality is the way people experience and express themselves sexually. Physical and emotional aspects of sexuality include bonds between individuals that are expressed through profound feelings or physical manifestations of love, trust, and care. Sexual lives are meant to be kept secret because it is a crucial aspect of human existence most especially in the contemporary society.

It is a fact that everyone does strange things when they’re alone; it’s totally normal as we rile on life. The display of some sexual behaviours trending today which includes pornography, masturbation, and faking orgasm, exists in the lives of singles and couples. An exposure to one’s sexual life causes more harm than good. It won’t be helpful to your partner in any way, so they don’t need to know about it. Exposing these three sexual behaviour leads to frustration and will be unsupportive and hurtful to your partner as in the case of married couples.

Porn as a Sex Secret

Pornography companies and websites seem to be the most visited among youths in this contemporary period. Millions of people visit websites because of one reason or the other especially when they are alone. But, it is not a condemning act as there are some benefits of watching porn, as well as demerits.

Porn is a pornographic work. Pornography (often shortened to porn) is the portrayal of sexual subject matter for the exclusive purpose of sexual arousal. Pornography may be presented in a variety of media, including magazines, animation, writing, film, video, and video games. The primary subjects of present-day pornographic depictions are pornographic models, who pose for still photographs, and pornographic actors who engage in filmed sex acts. 

Various groups within society have considered depictions of a sexual nature immoral, addictive, and noxious, labeling them pornographic, and attempting to have them suppressed under obscenity laws, censored or made illegal. Such grounds, and even the definition of pornography, have differed in various historical, cultural, and national contexts.

Benefits of Pornography

  1. It relieves stress

Just like every other stress-relieving tactic, people tend to watch pornography just to relieve stress. Life can be stressful, and from my experience, owning a stress ball does not make the complicated twists and turns any easier to deal with. 

  1. It could benefit your relationship

Watching porn with your partner can open both of your minds to new sexual possibilities.

  1. Watching porn may decrease aggressive tendencies.

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The Demerits of pornography

  1. The guilt and mistrust about pornography can tear a marriage apart.
  2. Turning to pornography may cause your spouse to withdraw from the real relationship because of the instant gratification one receives from it.
  3. Pornography could make it difficult for one of the partners to view sex as a loving form of communication.

Masturbation as a Sex Secret

Masturbation is the self-stimulation of the genitals to achieve sexual arousal and pleasure, usually to the point of orgasm (sexual climax). It is commonly done by touching, stroking, or massaging the penis or clitoris until an orgasm is achieved. Some women also use stimulation of the vagina to masturbate or use “sex toys,” such as Lelo Sona.

Masturbation is a very common behavior, even among people who have a sex partner. Masturbation is the first sexual act experienced by most males and females. In young children, masturbation is a normal part of the growing child’s exploration of his or her body. Most people continue to masturbate in adulthood, and many do so throughout their lives.

Why Do People Masturbate?

In addition to feeling good, masturbation is a good way of relieving the sexual tension that can build up over time, especially for people without partners or whose partners are not willing or available for sex. Masturbation also is a safe sexual alternative for people who wish to avoid pregnancy and the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases.

It also is necessary when a man must give a semen sample for infertility testing or for sperm donation. When sexual dysfunction is present in an adult, masturbation may be prescribed by a sex therapist to allow a person to experience an orgasm (often in women) or to delay its arrival (often in men).

Is Masturbation Normal?

While it once was regarded as a perversion and a sign of a mental problem, masturbation now is regarded as a normal, healthy sexual activity that is pleasant, fulfilling, acceptable, and safe. It is a good way to experience sexual pleasure and can be done throughout life.

Masturbation is only considered a problem when it inhibits sexual activity with a partner, is done in public, or causes significant distress to the person. It may cause distress if it is done compulsively or interferes with daily life and activities.

Faking Orgasm as a Sex Secret

Women fake orgasms more frequently than men, with one survey finding that 26 percent of women fake an orgasm every time they have sex. Other studies have found that anywhere from 25 to 74% of women admit to having faked an orgasm at some point in their lives. This is more than the 25 percent of women who report consistently having an orgasm during coitus.

Women tend to achieve orgasm during intercourse less readily than men because most women require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm and not all sexual positions provide access to the clitoris, which often makes orgasms difficult to achieve for women. For women in heterosexual relationships, faking an orgasm can also be based on deference to the man, need for his approval, or feelings of shame or sexual inadequacy.

Orgasm is not always achieved easily during sexual activity and due to this effect, some women especially make use of sex toys like iOrgasm Oval and Pink Duo to remedy the situation. For both sexes, the condition of being unable to orgasm during sex is called anorgasmia; it can be caused by a variety of factors, including factors in one’s life such as stress, anxiety, depression, or fatigue, as well as factors related to the sex itself; including worry, guilt, fear of painful intercourse, fear of pregnancy, the undesirability of a partner, and the undesirability of a setting. It can also be caused by drug use, including alcohol and other substances, or side effects from prescription drugs

People can fake orgasms for a number of reasons, such as when their partner wants them to orgasm but they are unable, or when they desire to stop having sex but are not comfortable telling their partner directly, avoiding negative consequences, or for pleasing their partner.

So, then, dear ladies and gentlemen, feel the pleasure in the very marrow of your bones; share it fairly with your lover, say pleasant, naughty things in a while. And if Nature has withheld from you the sensation of pleasure, then teach your lips to lie and say you feel it all. Unhappy is the woman who feels no answering thrill. But, if you have to pretend, don’t betray yourself by over-acting. Let your movements and your eyes combine to deceive us, and, gasping, panting, complete the illusion.

People can also fake orgasms for reasons of display or presentation, such as during phone sex or in pornography. 

Feminists have asserted that women faking orgasms is a sign of male-centered sexuality; in a society that celebrates only male sexual pleasure, women may feel pressured to engage in acts that bring their male partners to orgasm but that do not provide them physical pleasure.

Evolutionary Perspective     

From an evolutionary perspective, females might fake orgasms in order to signal fidelity to a male partner, particularly if he is of low-genetic quality. If a female has sex with many partners (employing a polygamous mating strategy) her aim may be to secure benefits from multiple males, such as resources, whilst aiming to only reproduce with males of high genetic quality.

A true orgasm is known to increase the number of sperm carried to the uterus post-male orgasm (suggesting reproductive benefits) and has suggested pair-bonding benefits.

Conclusion

Sex is not limited in intercourse or physical contact; it is anything you do to yourself or someone else does to you that causes you to be sexually aroused. Sexual feeling or urge is natural. As we grow physically and mature the thought of sex and sexual feeling comes upon us naturally. Sexual urge is one of the first signs of maturity in young people.

At a point in all our lives, we begin to sense sexual realities in thought, within us and towards opposite sex4. It is a mysterious feeling i.e. strange, difficult to understand, and causing curiosity). Ever so often, what we see and hear around us (physical or pictorially) tends to arouse or stir wrong sexual feelings and drive within us. Unlike in the case of beast or animals, “man” tends to have a natural restraining capacity into unhealthy sexual pressure – and that to a large extent brings the consciousness of keeping our sex lives secret.

Having a healthy sex life means knowing what you do and don’t want to do sexually and being able to communicate that to your partners. Your partner should respect your boundaries, and you should respect theirs.


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