Are you a University prospective student, undergraduate, graduate, or post-graduate? Then, this interesting article is for you. There is a trending practice that has turned into a tradition among University students who live in the different hostels around the school environment. This is the practice of not just engaging in a relationship but becoming married couples in the school hostels while single at home.
To understand this better, 99% of the off-campus hostels are mixed. They can contain both male and female students, who are able to stay next to another’s door. In fact, both genders can practically occupy a room, and when they do, they practically do everything together in common.
This practice is probably not a bad thing as many people would defend, because the students are mostly adults, and they can do whatever they want to do and bear the implications and consequences. After all, every moral agent has the ability to make choices.
On the other hand, many students see themselves in this #married-in-school practice without having any prior intention to do that. In fact, they suddenly see themselves doing the whole stuff without having a second thought because it is pleasurable at the moment, especially for newly admitted students.
These types of students should not be blamed because most of them lack the basic orientation and therefore have no idea about the things they will see or meet in the University, how to deal with them, and how to make a positive decision negative.
Again, most newly admitted students have longed to leave their father’s house, stay along with peer groups, and mingle with their contemporaries. And so, they crave to enjoy whatever pleasure they encounter, giving that it satisfies them in one way or the other.
Remember, this sect of students are young adults, and they are of the age range where they have strong desires for material things and some romantic kinds of stuff, as you probably know.
This #married-in-school but #single-at-home is rampant among most University undergraduates who live with each other in the school hostels/lodges.
The girls fully practice the functions of a wife, and the men practice the functions and duties of a husband in all ramifications. You will be evidential to this if you stay or visit the student’s hostels.
You will probably be disappointed to discover that it is now a custom for a girl to live with her male coursemate. It is not a tradition for some girls to cook, tidy the room, feed the man, and also feed him in the other way round.
In most cases, the male partners would have frequent sexual kinds of stuff with their school wives at any time they desire, damaging the girl’s future and creating a miserable life for the lady and her main future husband.
In several cases, the male partners impregnate the female ones and lure/force them to go and abort the baby simply because they are not ready to settle down, but they are settling down in school.
During this practice, most ladies lose their wombs to uncountable abortion trials by different quack doctors. Yes! They go to quack doctors or take unprescribed drugs because they don’t have a huge amount of money to do it with the professional specialty doctors in good hospitals.
You have not even seen anything yet. But, of course, you know that both partners are there for pleasure most times, so most of them do not have a true or genuine love for each other, especially the male ones. And so, they can break up any time and continue the race with another student, from the hostel or from another hostel. When this happens, the newly formed school couple will continue from where they stopped with the former partners and continue to destroy their future and career.
The most important thing to understand is that this practice comes with a heavy distraction from school activities. In fact, 90% of the students who are involved are always poor in their academics because they have given their full attention, commitment, and dedication to pleasurable things rather than serious studies, which is the major aim of going to the university.
Important Message to the Female Students
Dear University Babe,
Whether you are newly admitted or not, please pay attention as you go through these lines. The University studies are just a period of few years, mostly from 4 to 6 years for undergraduate courses. If you allow these small boys who wander about to run some stuff with ladies to get into you, then you may stand to regret a lot of things in a few years to come.
Most of you the girls seem to get into the university with so much excitement, such that they swiftly condition themselves to maintain the status quo established by their seniors in the school.
When they do this, they probably change their wardrobes, get a new set of make-up kits just to look ‘Campussy’ and gorgeous for the guys, change their intonations, and even start sleeping around with guys.
But, they forget in a hurry that they are in the University to study and not to marry, to make handle the pen and not to handle and not the pen+is, to obtain a degree and not a disease, to participate in the academic activities and not a party in the club activities, to become the head in debates, quizzes, and not to receive heads from guys.
In most cases, a lot of pretty ladies cook for a boy they are even more intelligent than, tidy the of a guy all in the name of hostel wife, and a lot more disgusting activities. Why would you open your legs to a man who cannot even stand before your father? A man who will be mad at you if you mistakenly get pregnant? A man who has forgotten the reason why he was sent to the University?
Remember that when you get into this, you start entertaining friends who are in your league too, so it becomes an unwilling addiction.
Aunty, before you consider moving into his apartment/room, always remember the reason for coming to the University. Do not forget that dreams and goals of yours to become a great woman in the future. Remember that your beauty will gradually fade, but the things you have learned and the skills you have acquired will remain with you.
Keep in mind that any man distracting you from securing a great future for yourself does not genuinely love you. Most men out there are there to use you and later look for a better girl to marry.
Remember that when the guys keep you, you become common to them to easily have enough of you.
Yes! When you give them everything on a platter of gold, why won’t they be tired of having you at a time?
If you have spare time in school, use the time to acquire skills such as hair-making, baking, make-over, computer skills, and a lot more.
If you do not learn any skill with the little time you have, you will not have multiple sources of income, and so, you will be conditioned to go from one man to another to earn a living. And when your beauty fades, there’s nothing that will attract people to you anymore.
Listen! No man would like to marry a woman that does not have anything to offer. So, if you are only good on the bed, even the men who enjoy you will never marry you because you will only be an additional problem.
Important Message for the Male Students
Dear University Guys,
Please, if you know that you cannot establish a great future with that girl, do not mess her up all in the name of student’s life or hostel couples.
Some girls only need your little care and attention, which doesn’t mean you should start injecting them. Of course, they will probably like it because it is pleasurable, but it is not a reason to waste her future, probably lure her into performing series of abortions.
Why Do Students Cohabitate In School?
Cohabitation can be defined as the coming together of two opposite sex students living together as one in the same room and in layperson language can be referred to as “Couples living” that is, the living together of a male and female student as husband and wife. The female student will perform the role of a house wife by cooking, washing and doing all other chores while the male counterpart will perform the role of a husband by providing money, foodstuff and at the same marathon sex. Couples living can be sweet because of the benefit involved and at the same time the consequences can never be overemphasised.
There are two types of cohabitation/couples living on campus:
- Permanent Cohabitation
- Temporary cohabitation.
Permanent cohabitation: This is the type of couples living whereby the male and female students live together as husband and wife. Here, the male and female will merge their foodstuffs together, house rent will be combined and other stuffs will be merged to contain both for survival during their stay on campus.
Temporary cohabitation: This is the type of cohabitation whereby the student will abandon his/her own hostel for that of his boyfriend/Girlfriend. In this case, the lady can spend weekend in his boyfriend’s hostel and sometimes a whole week or more than that but one thing is certain, the student won’t be always available in his/her own hostel and the best place to find them is in their partner apartment/ hostel.
4 Major Reasons Why Students Cohabitate On Campus
- Blind/First Love
When students get admission into the University or any higher institution, they feel like they are now matured to live independently with no interference. Some students who live couples’ lifestyle take advantage of their freedom to do things they like so they make use of the freedom to enjoy life with their lover. In a situation whereby the parents might want to visit, they have ways of arrangement to the extent that the parent won’t know what is going on.
If you fall to this category, My advice for you is that you should try to make use of your freedom to do things that will benefit your life and not wasting your time cooking and washing plates for a guy whom there is no assurance that you will both marry after school. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to teach you how to live your life because I understand everyone has his/her own life to live. I’m just trying to call for awake because the majority of those who did in the past regret their actions.
The love of money has pushed many ladies to live couple’s life on campus while others might be because of financial challenges. For example, a female student who can’t afford accommodation for herself might eventually end up living with a guy. Some may have spend their school fees, accommodation fee on something else and living with a guy who is financial buoyant might be the solution to their problem.
Money is a Major factor why students cohabitate on campus. Some guys also move in to their girlfriends hostel due to financial problems. However, If you fall into this category, I will advise you to try as much as possible to stop the habit of cohabitation try to liberate yourself, never depend on a man for survival because eventually he might use it against you.
Again, you need to find ways of getting your own money so that your man can respect you and not sitting down in his room doing what you ain’t supposed to do.
3. Blind/First Love
Blinded love has been a major reason students cohabitate on campus, especially nowadays, once you toast a lady on campus boom 24 hours later she has moved in to your house. It always starts with a visitation from there the guy will ask her to stay till the following morning from there one night followed by two nights the next thing you will see her spending two weeks later later she will upgrade from temporary cohabitation to permanent cohabitation.
In this category, the reason they live together as husband and wife is because of love. Is love truly blind, especially first love??? Probably no, because you know the consequences of what you are doing just that you choose to ignore. If you like to ignore by the time the result comes your eyes will be clear.
For example, during my days in school one of my female friends dated a Jehovah witness the love was very hot to the extent She moved to the guy’s house they play and always do things together to cut story short the guy sent her packing after the second semester examination they had issues. I warned her never to move in to a guy’s house, she wouldn’t listen.
There is nothing wrong in spending some time with your lover and I’m not saying you should not love or be in a relationship I’m just trying to tell you to apply sense Don’t cohabitate either primary or secondary.
Most of the students want their relationship to end in marriage so they believe that practice makes perfect and the best way to practice how marriage looks like, according to them, is to live as husband and wife on campus. If you go to the campus today live, ask any student about their plans after school majority of the answers you will get is “Marriage” I don’t know why students of these days are eager to get married this has been reason couples living on campus is getting too much.
If you fall into this category, I want you to know that relationship is not the same as marriage, don’t allow the sweetness of relationship to rush you to do the right thing at the wrong time. Although some couples living end in marriage but majority of the relationship, do crash after graduation. But, are there some consequences of cohabitation? Of course, there are. Let’s explore them in a jiffy.
4 Major Consequences Of Cohabitation
- Pre-marital Sex
- Unwanted Pregnancy
1. Pre-marital Sex
Cohabitation exposes you to premarital sex which is the bedrock of early Marriage the grassroots of over population and poverty. Couples living on campus can make you a sex addict which might become a problem for in the future. Free sex and marathon sex are some of the advantages of cohabitation and the consequences of premarital sex can’t be over emphasised so the choice is yours if you think you can still put things in control.
For example, last year I met a lady who claimed she is addicted to sex, she messaged me if there is any solution And when I studied her conversation very well, she said she once lived with a guy for five years and always had sex which has made her Sex Addict. Despite all the recommendation to be free, she still calls me months ago that she had now married because she can’t cope. Cohabitation is sweet but the consequences is bitter. I just hope you know what you are doing?
2. Unwanted Pregnancy
If you are very observant, you will notice these days that certain percentage of graduating students have given birth while some of them already got pregnant. How disappointed will your parents Be if you tell them you are pregnant now?? The worst part is that the majority of guys these days do not take the responsibility. So if you don’t want to end up being a single mother with unwanted pregnancy stay away from couples living.
Another consequence of Cohabitation is Abortion, although almost every girl has had an abortion in their entire life but still couples living on campus expose you to multiple abortion, which in turns Kill your chance of conceiving in the future. Some ladies even opted for family planning whereas they are not yet married all to enjoy the pleasure in cohabitation.
You may end up regretting all your actions because in most cases couples living on campus don’t end in marriage it ends the moment one graduates from the institution(Not in all cases). Imagine you didn’t not later get married to him/her you just wasted your money, time and resources. Let me tell you a story.
There was a friend of mine that did couples living on campus back in school then, Micheal was a very brilliant student, he was in SLT department while his girlfriend was in accountancy department. According to what he told me they have both been in a relationship since their secondary school so with the freedom of higher institution they settled for couples living as they live together as husband and wife to the extent everyone of us get jealous of them on campus.
They did frame in their room but one thing that shock me about Michael claims that he never touches his girlfriend. He told us that both of them have plans for future and will get married after school. Facebook, WhatsApp and Instagram won’t rest with their posts of love. I told Michael that he was foolish to engage in such a thing called couples living but he wouldn’t listen. He swore to us he has never had sex with his partner despite living together because he was preserving her for marriage tho I don’t believe.
Let me cut short the story, not up-to six months we graduated when the relationship crashed. Micheal cried because it was a yahoo boy that snatched the babe, the virginity he was preserving for marriage has been eaten by hoodlum. All the money, efforts and other energy has been wasted. Micheal has deleted all the Facebook posts of him and his babe while the babe has moved on with his life.
This is a true life story and I just want you to learn from Micheal mistake. I want you to know the reason you are in school is to learn not to groom a family. There is time for everything. So, don’t rush. Some people cohabitate because their friends do it let me also remind you that you are not your friend, you are different even if others are doing it doesn’t mean you should do same. You can nurture your relationship spend quality time with your partner and still achieve your goals.
But don’t be foolish to live couple’s life on campus. Remember the consequences of cohabitation are premarital sex, unwanted pregnancy, regret, poverty, shame, heartbreak, abortion, emotional trauma. Now the question is can you bear All these consequences? I guess the answer is no right My dear student Think about this. May God help you and I to change. Amen.