Hey! It’s love time with Machinep, and on today’s love and relationship discourse, a black man is passing through a terrible moment because his girlfriend is white, and her parents have disapproved her from getting into marriage with a black man. After reading the man’s report, we will analyze it and provide a feasible solution to the problem.
Report from the Man
I’m black and I’ve been dating my girlfriend (Chinese) for almost 2 years now. I met her in Beijing at one English training school and we’ve been living together every day in an apartment since then.
We love each other very much and we really want to get married. My parents haven’t met her in person yet because of COVID but they love her already and are dying to meet her. However, her parents are completely the opposite. They don’t approve of her dating foreigners at all, they 100% against it. They want her to marry another Chinese boy that they like but she doesn’t love him, she loves me.
All we want is to get married and be together for the rest of our lives. All the time we’ve spent together, it already feels like we’ve known each other for a lifetime and it feels like we’re already married. We don’t know what to do, we don’t want to break up but her parents will never allow me to marry her in China. I’ve thought about taking her to the U.S to get married, I don’t know what we should do. Any advice?
Love Solution | Machinep
Love is a magical attraction and an inseparable bond when it is true and genuine. This is a case of racism and choice, and it is can happen to anybody. But there is always a way out. Let’s explore this.
Marriage and relationships can be established from any part of the world because it is is an emotional attraction that exists between two love birds. In this situation, it seems to be insane to condition two genuine lovers to stay away from their happiness (being together forever).
However, two possible things are likely to happen. It’s either you allow the rejection from her parents to ruin your relationship and love, or you bravely put that aside and prioritize your love even knowing how unfortunate the implication may be.
If you truly love each other as you have confessed, then the best option is to fight for your love, and this fight should be more of an intellectual one, and your woman should play a major role. At this point, your woman is the only person to work on both sides (the side of you and the side of her parents).
Having known this, you should take it as your duty to work together with your woman to design calculated and logical methods to apply in convincing her parents. In doing this, your woman should remind her parents about her right to live happily with her desired partner.
Just at the same time, you should discover effective ways to get into them and sell yourself as a responsible and best person to take care of their daughter.
Keep in mind that this activity would require some time for a favorable result to be achieved, and thus, you should cultivate the virtues of temperance, prudence, and faith.
From the best of my knowledge, I think if they truly love each other, they should continue with the relationship and marriage. But, if they have any single doubt within themselves, then they should not go ahead with it.
And, they should remember that there is a difference between Dating and Marriage. Marriage is very deep and so you should be careful when making any dicision
Hey! This is a strong decision to make, but at the same time, I enjoy reading through the solution